Dying To Win

Dying To Win is my philosophy of contests, fights and competitive encounters. It aspires to be a mode of therapy – to get to know oneself better through sport, games, and skill. The concepts are a unique mix of existential philosophy, psychoanalysis, Zen buddhism, Stoicism, plus 18 years (and counting) of ring fighting. James Southwood.


Human beings have a tendency to overvalue self-esteem. Self-esteem is the prop for our personal meaning; our vanguard against insignificance; our defence against loss of identity. A self-esteem trade feels like gambling with our existence. This is why we tremble at the start of a contest or a fight.

Die before you die

‘One who does not understand that the whole power of the spirit is required for dying, and that the hero always dies before he dies, that man will not get so very far with his conception of life’. ‘Soren Kierkegaard, Fear and Trembling